Forgiving to me, is about completely letting go of wrongs into the future. It is something that happens in the moment. We tend to think in terms of past behaviors when we speak of forgiving. In other words, I forgive you for this or that. I don’t feel that this is what forgiveness is about. Forgiveness is a state of being; a perpetual letting go in the moment. It is a way.
The most important one to forgive is ourselves. Until that moment occurs, we cannot move forward. This is the hardest task to do. I still struggle with it. It is easy for me to let someone walk all over me and then forgive them because I’m yet to forgive myself about something. In this case, I may feel deserving of their crappy behavior. When I truly forgive myself and let go I can then stand up to put an end to this nonsense. Forgiveness is freedom and it allows us to do the next great thing….
Giving. From a state of clarity, we can truly give of ourselves. More of us becomes available to others in a genuine way. My dream is for human beings to let go of hoarding and working to get more for themselves and instead, invest our time giving to one another. Our work could be focused around making sure that everyone is cared for. In the end, I believe that we’d find ourselves cared for more than we could imagine. I realize that this will be a challenging transistion but I do believe it necessary and possible.
We have the grace to do so.