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The Fear in love, art & fear

I used the title Love, Art & Fear to capture our experience as human beings.  It’s just an idea but it makes perfect sense to me.

We create.

For better or worse, richer or poorer we are married to the experience called life that we co-create with.  Love or Fear are the places we create from.

The ‘Fear’ in love, art & fear is a simple resistance to love.  When we resist love, we block our greatest good.  In fear, we hide and the wonders of life cannot find us.  It kills us slowly over time.  First in spirit, next in body.  Fear can be tricky because sometimes it manifests as comfort or convenience and we believe it to be a friend.  It whispers in our ear all of the reasons why our dream or goal won’t happen.  Most of all, it reminds us that we do not deserve love.  The reason for this is because love means the death of fear and fear wants to live.  Fear is pure resistance.

I’m obviously not talking about resistance of temptation or bad behaviors.  Resisting temptation makes us stronger with an intact character.  Saying no to a bad idea is always a good idea.  That form of resistance is from love.  I’m also not speaking about the fear that alerts us to danger.  That too, is from love.  I am specifically pointing out an imaginary psychological force that holds us hostage and keeps us from our own best interest.

We know when we are creating from fear because of the fruits.  Mostly, it fruits are mundane or mediocre.  Other times, it manifests as dread or anxiety about some imagined future event that will most likely not happen.

I would wager to say that all fear is the fear of death.  Resisting the very thing that sets us free is ridiculous.  Success means a death of old ways hence fear of success.  Fear of losing someone tends to result in smothering which eventually pushes that someone away.  Fear of physical death creates an enormous amount of stress in the body which could lead to a disease that the body succumbs to.

Fear inevitably creates the very circumstance we attempt to avoid by worrying or being fearful.

This is a great cosmic irony.

The good news is that fear is optional.


Blockers

Beware of blockers in your life.

Blocking is a term taken from improv acting.  When a creative seed starts to grow, it is the blockers job to say “no”.  Since improvisation is a great metaphor for life every day, I thought this would be appropriate.

Try to move one step forward if just one member of your team is constantly saying no.  They will be like weights on your hot air balloon and you will go nowhere.  I understand how difficult it can be to remove blockers from our experience as they can come in the form of close family or friends. There is nothing stopping us from continuing to love them.  Love is a must.  There is no reason however to continue to allow anyone to block you from progressing in your journey, goals, accomplishments, dreams or experience.  We actually owe it to those people to stop their influence otherwise we will end up full of resent and blame towards them.

Blame is a funny character.  No one did anything to stop us in the end.  We are the ones who allow or disallow experience.  This brings me to the greatest blocker in all our lives; our self.

We tend to block ourselves by saying no to opportunity or by not speaking up.  We shut ourselves down because we don’t believe we are worthy of love.  It is very easy to say we couldn’t because of this or that, but the truth is that we couldn’t because we didn’t.

I’m writing this knowing full well that I still have a few logs to remove from my own eye.  It is my intention to encourage you to continually look at yours as well.  These blockers have a way of creeping back in to our psychology and require diligence.  Denying them is just pure non-sense.

One major thing that I have learned from my 37 years on Earth is that life is a journey of getting out of our own way.


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